Okay you are deeply in love with your man. No one will blame you for that. However, you still have to pay attention to some little details that could show whether he feels the same way about you. They may be hard to see but finding them and putting them together can give you the needed information to save you from a terrible heartbreak.
1. He won’t call you his girlfriend.
If he doesn’t refer to you as his girlfriend, you aren’t his girlfriend, and you never will be. It’s just that simple.
2. He won’t meet your family.
You know why he won’t meet your family? Because your dad will be shaking his hand and saying hello and what dude will be hearing is “So, you’re the young man who is sport-f*cking my daughter. Greetings, monster.”
He knows he ain’t in it to win it, he doesn’t want to put himself (or you) through that.
3. He won’t make plans.
You’re the plan maker. Always. And even when you say “let’s hangout on Saturday”, you might not hear from him until say 10:30 that evening.
Why? Because you aren’t a priority in his life.
4. He tells you he’s not ready for a relationship.
If a guy tells you he isn’t ready for a relationship … BELIEVE HIM! If a guy tells you he’s bad news … BELIEVE HIM! In fact, if a dude is quick to tell you all of his failings as boyfriend material, believe him there too.
You’re literally hearing it from the emotionally unavailable horse’s mouth.
5. He’s still in touch with his exes.
There’s the guy who is still polite to his exes, and there’s the guy who would run and jump right back into her panties should she snap her ludicrously French manicured fingers.
Use your best discretion.
6. He’s a fantasist.
He might not call you his girlfriend, but it’s April and he’s talking about what you’ll do for Christmas. DO NOT BE FOOLED BY HIS WEB OF LIES.
He is trying to throw you off the scent so that you will keep having s*x with him.
7. He hides his phone.
I mean yes, that is a clear red flag. I’d also add, if he’s on his phone all the effing time, you’re also in trouble. You know what will be there no matter how he treats it? Twitter. You are better than Twitter.
I know, I know, it’s a lot to process but it’s true: You. Are. Better. Than. Twitter.
8. He’s hard to talk to.
I dated a guy for six months. I was in love with him by the end. But when it came to my feelings, our s*x life, the weather, I never felt 100% comfortable opening up to him.
That’s a sign I (and everyone else) should watch out for.
9. He gaslights you.
I cannot with this. If you think something’s wrong, and you ask him if something’s wrong and his response is “you’re crazy”, get the hell out of there. The only acceptable answer to your question is “Yeah, there is, let’s talk,” or “No, I’m OK, are you OK?”
Do not EVER let a man make you think your feelings or concerns are hysterical or crazy.
10. He’s still dating someone else.
I am a very smart woman. I dated a man seriously who was still living with AND dating his girlfriend of 10 years. That is a stupid thing for a smart woman to do, but it happens, because genitals get tingly and somebody made you a good playlist.
Don’t beat yourself up, but do end it.