7 Warning Signs You Should Not Fall In Love With ‘A Narcissist’

If the following sounds familiar, speak to a professional about untangling yourself from this destructive personality trait.Here are signs you should not fall in love with a narcissist otherwise, you’re capable of controlling their behaviours:

The charm offensive

First it’s all charm: you’re amazing, you’re their everything. Then it’s all offensive: you’ll feel bowled over, overwhelmed, you’ll have no time to think, no space to create boundaries, no opportunity to say ‘no’. If you don’t satisfy their need for instant gratification, they’ll act out with rage or sulking.

It’s not confidence, it’s obscene self-importance

Someone with NPD considers themselves superior in every way. They have a wildly inflated view of themselves and their capabilities. They’ll treat ‘inferiors’ poorly and be the best one-uppers at the dinner table.


Their achievements will be exaggerated, their high status connections overspun. They love, live and dream bigger than anyone – way beyond your silly aspirations – and if they fail to make any progress, it’s probably someone else’s fault. Probably yours.


They’re not averse to lying, guilting, gas lighting (manipulating someone to doubt their own memories, sanity and perception), and putting you in danger to reach their goal, whether that’s getting you to pay their rent, to secure a job, or to feel better about themselves.

Constant put-downs

A narcissist will make you feel inferior. They’ll criticise, however sweetly, your weird clothes, not-quite-right body, lame opinions or your stupid hobby. You may even feel compelled to alter yourself to accommodate their disapproval.

It is all about them.

Did you go through a terrible experience? Your narcissist will make it about themselves and even make you feel greedy, selfish and demanding for wanting attention. Maybe they’ll ignore you until it’s all about them again. Don’t expect them to follow through on commitments.

Demands admiration and attention

Narcissists require excessive admiration. Don’t talk to anyone else at a party or have too much of a good time without them – you’ll simply be inviting a world of drama. It might even start feeling easier to stop talking to other people altogether or to not go out anymore.
Sound familiar? Time to say hello to a healthier love life: get a diagnosis and some help from a registered mental health clinician.


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