You’ve been with your partner for a while now and you’re both pretty happy. You love each other and appreciate spending time together. You can’t wait to see them when you get home at night.
However, just because you’re happy and in love now, that doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship will last forever. It’s sad and not something you want to think about, but it’s true. Many long-term relationships end, even though both parties thought it would last forever.
So, how do you tell if your relationship with your long-term partner will last?
How do you know that even if you marry, you won’t end up going through the process of divorce in South Africa a few years, or even a few months, down the line? Well here are some signs your relationship is built to last:
You can’t stand each other’s bad habits but you can live with them
You’re supposed to be irritated by each other’s bad habits sometimes. It’s normal. They’ll do things that annoy you and you’ll do things that annoy them. The fact that you can live with that means that their good qualities outweigh the bad.
It’s when couples don’t find anything annoying or irritating that there’s a problem. It means they either don’t know each other as well as they think they do or they’re still in the honeymoon phase of their long-term relationship. One day the little things will start to annoy them and they might even be married or have a family by then. And they won’t be certain they can live with their partner’s bad habits.
Your schedules are similar (to a certain degree)
Look, it is possible to have a successful relationship when you work different hours and have completely different sleep schedules. But it will be difficult.
Firstly, because you’ll have trouble seeing each other as often as you’d like to and end up missing some important moments in each other’s lives. Secondly, your schedules might not stay that different forever. One day your partner might move from working night shift to working day shift and you’ll be at home and awake at the same time every day.
If you’ve only ever experienced living with someone while you’re on conflicting schedules, you might find it hard to adjust. By spending more time with them, you might start to find them less interesting or notice more things you don’t like about them.
You never make each other feel guilty for spending time with friends
Having friends is important and keeping up those relationships is vital to your happiness and social well-being.
When you’re first in a romantic relationship, you obviously want to spend all your time together. But that should not last once your relationship has shifted from the beginning stages to a long-term commitment.
If either of you become jealous or possessive when the other one wants to hang out with their friends, that’s a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should trust your partner enough to be comfortable with them going out with their friends regularly. In fact, you should want them to have and maintain those friendships and they should want the same for you. That’s healthy.
You want to hear about each other’s days
If you care more about telling your partner about your day than hearing about theirs, that’s not good.
Of course, there will be days when something huge has happened and you can’t wait to share it with them. But this shouldn’t be the norm. You should both want to hear about each other’s day, every day.
You should know their colleagues’ names, who they like and who they have conflicts with. You should know who they work with closely and who their boss is, even if you haven’t met them.
You should know all this just because you’ve been listening intently to them talking about their day for as long as you’ve been in a relationship with them.
You’ve discussed your plans for the future and you’re both on the same page
This is extremely important for the success of any relationship. If you plan to stay together, you should be on the same page when it comes to what you want in the future.
There’s no point staying with someone who doesn’t want to have children when you desperately do. And there’s no point staying with someone who wants to move overseas when you can’t stand the idea of leaving your friends and family behind. You need to be able to openly discuss your goals, ambitions and what you honestly want out of life.
At the end of the day, you need to look out for these signs in order to tell whether your long-term relationship is healthy and destined to continue. However, life does happen and there’s no sure-fire way to be certain that you and your partner will be together forever.