Marriage is a big step in a relationship and vowing to love and look after someone for the rest of your life isn’t one to be taken lightly. But just because you’ve said ‘I do’ doesn’t mean the passion should be lost from your union, and there are plenty of ways to keep your romance fresh. Before you find yourself feeling more like friends than lovers, try following these tips to keep the excitement alive.
Even if you live together and spend every single night in each other’s company, that doesn’t mean you don’t need to go out together anymore. Date nights are a great way to keep the spark alight and to do something fun together, from dinner at a fancy restaurant to a fun night of bowling. Mark the date in your diary or on your calendar so it doesn’t get forgotten about or double-booked and try to go for something you don’t normally do, as you want to break the habit here and have some fun as a couple.
Keep the flirtation going
Remember how often you’d compliment your partner on their hair, outfit, or even more intimate aspects? Marriage doesn’t mean the praise should stop altogether – flirtation and positive feedback provide necessary reassurance when feeling stuck in a rut. Something as simple as a cheesy chat up line may do your union wonders! Make sure to be tactical with your approach, resting a hand on their knee or a sweep across their back when boosting their ego. After all, if you find them sexy, why not let them know? This will boost the physical side of your relationship, too.
Remind each other of your initial bond
There were obviously many reasons for you to marry your other half and with the stress and strain of everyday life, you may sometimes forget them. Regularly reminding yourself of why you fell in love with them just might make you fall even more head over heels. Whether it’s their sense of humour, their smile or their comforting presence, thinking about how much they mean to you will give your marriage a whole new outlook during those down periods and will reinvigorate that spark you felt at the beginning.
Don’t be afraid of therapy
Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness; it simply means you’re taking a strong and sensible step in keeping your marriage together. When difficult moments and situations arise which you can’t handle, and you find yourselves arguing, counselling can provide you with sensible, calm ways to tackle the problem rather than letting it take over. If you love each other and don’t want to be miserable, but can’t figure out how to improve your marriage, therapy may be the answer.