Holding into somebody for longer compared to their desired period in your life could be much more dangerous to your development compared to you understand
As women, we often have a tendency of holding onto relationships and friendships that no longer serve us, without realising how far back this sets us. Letting go takes tons of courage, but also lifts a great load off your shoulders.
When is it time to let go of a relationship?
You feel unappreciated Seeking affirmation or appreciation comes naturally to human beings. Sometimes, after years or even months, complacency sets in and the spark of a relationship is snuffed out. Although this is normal, couples should constantly work on their relationships by appreciating each other, whether it be with deeds, words or simple gratitude. If your relationship leaves you feeling unappreciated even after you’ve let your partner know how you feel, it could be time to walk away.
You’ve failed to resuscitate the relationship Giving up should never be your first option when things aren’t rosy, but there comes a time when the best thing you can do for yourself would be to walk away from a relationship that has turned toxic. If your relationship has been going through a rough patch and you’re the only one who’s been trying to save it, you need to think about whether it’s all worth it. If it’s draining the life out of you, it’s definitely not. Muster the courage to walk away.
Your personal growth is halted Nothing is more beautiful than seeing two people support each other’s dreams. If you find yourself stagnating as a result of a failing relationship, it might be time to let go. Women should never be made to feel less than they are.
You no longer love yourself Relationships are about give and take but should never leave you feeling terrible about yourself. If your partner makes you feel like you are not enough, this might be the right time to let go.
Could it be time to end the friendship?
Ending a friendship can sometimes be 10 times harder than ending a romantic relationship. Here’s how to identify if a friendship has possibly run its course.
The trust is goneOnce trust has been broken, it’s difficult, but not impossible to repair. But when you get to a point in the friendship where you can’t have any peace about trusting someone who was once your confidante (because of a series of events), you should ask yourself if it is worth holding onto the friendship.
Jealousy lurksIt’s a good sign when your progress encourages your friend to do better, but when she feels threatened and acts on her jealousy (sometimes in subtle ways), it could be time to shut the door.
It’s timeSometimes, without any reason, a friendship runs its course. You find yourselves making less contact and not sharing “big news” as often. It’s completely normal to outgrow friendships. Some friendships are meant for life, while others are seasonal. Breakups don’t have to be bitter. A clear sign of moving on is when you’re sincerely able to wish your friend well when you part ways.
These 10 quotes will give you perspective on letting go:
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realising that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber,
“Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.” – Ali ibn abi Talib
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.” – C JoyBell C
“Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” – Steve Maraboli
“If you didn’t love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and everything that followed it is part of letting it go.” – Sarah Dessen,
“I demolish my bridges behind me… then there is no choice but to move forward” – Fridtjof Nansen
“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.” – Steve Maraboli,